Self Appraisal

A little boy went to a telephone booth which was at the cash counter of a store and dialed a number. 
The store-owner observed and listened to the  conversation: 
 
Boy                : "Lady, Can you give me the job of cutting your lawn? 
Woman         : (at the other end of the phone line) "I  already have someone to cut my lawn." 
Boy                : "Lady, I will cut your lawn for half the price  than the person who cuts your lawn now." 
Woman         : I'm very satisfied with the person who is  presently cutting my lawn. 
Boy                : (with more perseverance) "Lady, I'll even sweep the floor  and the stairs of your house for free. 
Woman          : No, thank you. 
 
With a smile on his face, the little  boy replaced the receiver. The store-owner, who was listening to all this,  walked over to the boy. 
 
Store Owner       : "Son... I like  your attitude; I like that positive spirit and would like to offer you a  job." 
Boy                       : "No thanks, 
Store Owner       :  But you were really pleading for one. 
Boy                       : No Sir, I was just  checking my performance at the job I already have. I am the one who is  working for that lady I was talking to!"   
 
 
This is what we call…
 
"Self  Appraisal"

Chalo aaj fir bachche banjaaye......

Ek raat hum gehri neend me so jaaye, or fir subah uthke kaash bachche ban jaaye....
bhaagti daudti duniya ko chod hum, firse bachpan me laut jaaye....
duniya se anjaan, fir Maa ki godi me apne aap ko paaye....
Chalo aaj hum fir bachche ban jaaye...

Do kave roti khaane k liye,,,Maa ko khub sataye...
Papa k kandho par chadke khub khele or khilaye..
firse roye, fir se sataye, apni baat manwane k liye zor zor se chil laye..
chalo aaj hum fir bachche ban jaaye....

fir aaj basta lekar, school padne jaaye...apni harkato se teacher ko khub sataye...
firse naye dost banaye..jinke saath khoob lade, khele or khilaye....
chalo aaj fir sab dost milke khaana khaaye, shararat kar firse ghar kapde gande karke aaye..
Maa ki daant sun hum firse aansoo bahayein, fir maa ka he aanchal thaame un aansoo ko ponch paaye...
Maa k chehre pe hasi k liye hum kuch b kar jaaye.........
chalo aaj hum fir bachche ban jaaye....

Zindag ki udaan aaj hum firse bhar aaye, khulle aasmaan me aaj firse ud aaye...
chalo aaj firse kaagaz ki naav banaye or baarish k paani me usko firse tairraye....
Us naav ko tairta dekh, hum b kuch sapne sajaye.........
un hasin dino ko aaj firse apne daaman me simat paaye.....
chalo aaj hum fir bachche an jaaye......

fir nayi umango, naye josh se naye sapne sajaye....
Maa-Papa ke sapno ko ek naya aakar de paaye......
Unke sapne poore karne k liye,kuch b kar jaaye...
chalo aaj hum bachche ban jaaye..............

Chalo bachpan k un haseen dino ko hum firse mehsoos kar aaye,
bade hone ka ehsaas firse kabhi mann me naa aaye...kaash hum bachche bankar he reh jaaye....

Chalo aaj hum bachche ban jaaye...
Dil se...
RJ

Surprise.......................................

   Duffer & Idiot....................April 2006 till forever…

Most people walk in and out of your life. But only True friends leave footprints in your heart, just the one about whom I have written below…….

The most exotic feeling I had when I had to pen down about you, I was perplexed as to what should I start with, should be your beauty as of flowers, or your heart as soft as dove, I am vexed as whether to praise your smile which is as scintillating as stars.

I know words will never be enough to tell about you..but as it’s an occasion to say something in your regards…Here I start..

First of all a very happy new year 2012 to you dear..

I know my blog is thousand times more worthy today because it has a name "IDIOT" on it.....u must b thinking what’s there in word "IDIOT”. For some of you it might sound Silly...but for me its WORLD....it's a cute name given by me to my best and closest friend Veenu....and DUFFER is a word given by her to me, which perfectly suits me hehehe…a person without whom my life is incomplete.....one friend in millions to cherish...A person who has golden heart....who cares without any reason...soft from heart...and very sharp from mind.

Without any fuss, confusion, tangles and commitment life become a cake-walk if you have a hand off a friend to hold on just like my dearest IDIOT... If not, then tell me, how is it possible that in population of more than a billion you somehow stuck with someone who is just like you? We also say at times, ‘This world is so mean’, then how come there are few people who are ready to take all your sorrows and are always there for you when you need them. I can say this because I have been gifted with such a beautiful gift called “V.E.E.N.U” in my life.

A Friend who stood beside me as a support, to lift me up whenever I was down…and who was equally happy, whenever I was on cloud 9.Really I thank God for all his blessings to gift a friend like her....Whenever I am upset, she is the first one who notices that sadness in my eyes, no matter how hard I try to hide it behind my smile. Whenever I am stuck in a problem and have no solution, no matter how serious the issue may be, she is the one who provides me the best possible way out of it. Whenever I need a company she is the one who come to me and make me laugh leaving behind other things. Friendship is that innocent feeling as of a small child whose love is unconditional, uncommitted and yet so pure, same as ours….

My morning freshens up seeing her Good morning message, which she sends 24*7*365 without fail and I will be in all smiles and day ends only after  knowing how was the day… kya kiya pure din etc.. Past 6 years are incised in my heart forever. Each day spent is still so fresh in my heart. You are the best dear, I don’t even have the words to express my feelings, that with so much patience you have handled me in 2011, if you wouldn’t have their in my life, don’t know what would have happened, I would never  forget each of your words said, to console me and take me out from the darkness. I sincerely owe you for this idea...”A letter to God” seriously I was at a peace after writing this….. But as I promised that you will see a new Rahul in 2012 and” HERE I AM”, with lot more confidence, more optimistic about me and my future, and believe me, you will never see 2011 Rahul again, khair as you always say JO HOTA HAI ACHCHE K LIYE HOTA HAI, n I can sense that now, hope you understood what I meant to say, n I know you got it…heheheh..mere bina bole samajh jaane ki aadat jo hai aapko.

You know I just found something related to above paragraph, by which I am more optimistic now.

Life Still Has A Meaning

If there is a future there is time for mending-
Time to see your troubles coming to an ending.

Life is never hopeless however great your sorrow-
If you're looking forward to a new tomorrow.

If there is time for wishing then there is time for hoping-
When through doubt and darkness you are blindly groping.

Though the heart is heavy and hurt you may be feeling-
If there is time for praying there is time for healing.

So if through your window there is a new day breaking-
Thank God for the promise, though mind and soul be aching,

If with harvest over there is grain enough for gleaning-
There is a new tomorrow and life still has meaning.

I was thinking y not to recollect today, some of our best moments spent together……See below…

Sweetest Memories among all:

Remember right, almost 5 and a half yrs back, we both were standing in your balcony and started knowing each other for the first time.

Chats and messages which made us so close to each other…

Family meets were the best…right?

Your gift to me- Saibaba ki murti……..and last year gift made me feel itna saara waala happyyyyyyyyyyyyyy J)

Last year 22^nd Jan……and my gift to you…..

Family outing for whole day, last year visiting temples and lots of photography, were one of the best moments spent…

There is lot more to write about best moments, but if I start writing, then it will take ages.

You know what Idiot..Friendship is like an investment, the more you invest the more you reap..An Investment in term of trust and faith which is the root of any relation.No better how better friends you are  but if there is no seed of trust and faith in the soil, the tree of friendship cannot stand long..but touchwood it's been almost 6 years now and our friendship is till lively and fresh...

Life with a friend like you became an easy going journey that I would never like to get over with. Each day spent with you is to be cherished in a different way even if some days bring lot of misunderstandings or fights. But whatever it is, friendship is an old book, while turning its pages you go through a lot of mixed feelings realizing that even after sharing the best and the worst you are still together.

I always believe, when you have 1 friend who cares and make you happy in thousands of way, then you don't need thousands of friends to make you special...you are that 1 friend of mine…………..

At last..cake for you...I would not miss any opportunity to wish you first a advance happy brithday which I already did 3 months back..hehehe....just 19 days to go..................:))))

And finally always remember, many times in your life, you will be  dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions and the circumstances that come your way, but always believe in your self dear...and you will surely come out of it with flying colours...take care of your self......

Wishing you all the very best for your future endeavours......Always there for you....

Yours,

Duffer.......

(now really excited to be alive:)))

KAL HO NA HO PART 2..

It was Saturday evening, the day I await most, I was groggy in sleep, then suddenly my mind tickled to watch Kal ho na ho again, as you all know the movie for which I am totally mad .I had to continue where I last stopped in my previous post .I have lots of things to write, let see where I end up writing.

In my previous post I mentioned that now comes a serious twist in my life which relates my past to this movie, is Aman’s love towards Naina which couldn’t turn into reality..Let me take you through remaining beautiful parts of the movie which are engraved in my heart forever…

Now Naina has changed herself, she wore lenses now and best part she started smiling. When Naina meets Rohit after her makeover, Rohit gets stunned to see her completely new looks, and starts misinterpret ting that Naina likes her, but that was not the fact. She actually started liking Aman who bags total credit in transforming Naina.  Ajeeb hai na jise pehle hum jaante bhi nahi who hamari zindagi me aata hai or hame puri tarah badaldeta hai, or dheere dheere  sab kuch kitna achcha lagne lagta hai…shayad yehi pyaar ki shuruat hoti hai??? Then song comes Kuch to hua hai kuch hogaya..nice one…

Then small clip comes where everyone starts defining love, and Shahrukh’s line goes like this...

PYAAR??? Pyaar me zindagi khoobsurat lagne lagti hai..har sapna sach lagne lagta hai..manzil badalne lagti hai..hawa ka rukh bhi badalne lagta hai..rango pe nazar padne lagti hai…and he smiles and says ab laal rang bhi achcha lagne lagta hai…har pal har waqt hamesha zabaan pe ek he naam aane lagta hai…………………….????????

Below is pyaar according to me…

PYAAR?? Zindagi ki sabse pyaari cheez..jiske pass nahi who adhura hai…mere liye pyaar kisi ek ko dil se chahna or basss chahte he rehna….shayad wo KAL HO NA HO…agar who miljaaye to zindagi haseen ban jaaye or na mile to bas rehjaati hai uski YAADEIN…….

Naina and Rohit now meets to tell each other feelings, but what poor guy Rohit knew that Naina would come up and tell him that she loves Aman .They meet each other near a beautiful lake where Rohit gets first shock of his life .Naina asks that should she tell her feelings to Aman and Rohit says go now and say him..

Now comes my most favourite part of the movie, when Naina enters into Aman’s house  in a stunning Red dress with beautiful red bokay in her hand,just to say she loves Aman, without knowing that her heart will break forever….. This was the first time Aman had tears for Naina in his eyes.

Naina silently sits on sofa..and after sometime she starts stammering I……when suddenly her eyes goes towards photograph of Aman and Sonali Bendre (Priya in the movie) and asks Aman who is this lady, and he says his wife Priya………and tears rolls out of Naina’s eyes and she couldn’t hide the pain..obviously when you love someone and come to know that he/she is married or for instance love someone else, this pain is out of the world....eventhough  Priya is not a wife of Aman in the movie, he had to tell a lie to Naina because he was suffering from cancer and had very less time to survive, now this is called SACRIFICE…where you don’t want someone’s life to spoil because of you.

After Naina leaves the house, Aman’s and his mother’s conversation starts like this.

Mother: Tum pyaar karte ho na usse?.

Aman: Kisse Maa? Nahi aisa nahi hai me Naina se pyaar nahi karta.

Mother: Maine Naina ka naam kab liya?

Aman : Jab aap sab jaante hue b yeh sachchai seh nahi sakti ki mere pass kuch din he hai, to Naina kaise sahegi?

Aman: Me use kaise kahu ki pehli baar is dil ne kisi ko dil se chaha hai, pehli baar is dil ne kisi k liye saans li hai, pehli baar is dil ne kisi se mohabbat ki hai…

And my fav line…maa is dil ki mohabbat me bahut taakat hai,lekin yeh dil bahut kamzor hai…yeh kamzor dil use kaise dedu Maa kaise?????woh mera pyaar nahi hai maa kisi or ka hai…bas yeh pyaar us tak pahucha du yehi mera sapna hai……

Fir or kya tha story aage badti rahi hai…..Naina or Rohit ko Aman ne milva diya……khud k dil pe itna dard leke naina ko kisi ki hoti dekhna…aman se raha nahi gaya….or ro pada….and lastly because of cancer he dies……….

Shayad yehi sachcha pyaar hai….aap bas kisi ko dil se chahte raho..or agar aapka pyaar sachcha hai to who aapke pass zaroor aayega…….or nahi to who kabhi aapka nahi tha………..

The End............................................................................................

KAL HO NA HO..................................................

It's 2 am and I just finished watching the movie which is very close to my heart...Yes, you guessed it right by seeing the title "Kal ho na ho"...The movie without which me and my life is incomplete..Movie taught me many things in many ways..what if you completely get changed by a single movie of 3 hours which teaches you so much for rest of your life?? I was very serious kinda guy before just like Preity Zinta (Naina in the movie) but watching liveliness of shahrukh(Aman in the movie), I transformed my self just as Naina in the movie.......u might be wondering how??? ah haaa for that you have to read below....

First part.....Shahrukh's entry.....his way of making people smile...jelling on with people so easily......teasing Naina as chasmish.....was first of way bringing a thought, can I be like him in my life.......bindaas guy???

Second part.........Shahrukh's dialogue outside Naina's house which was the first step to transform Naina's life and also mine... It goes like this...
Sssshhhhhh...tumhe aisa  kyu lagta hai ki duniya ka saara boz tumhare kandho par hai....tum ho kaun....who are you??? Ishwar ki prathna karne ka kya fayda jab uski zindagi ki kadar karna na jaano....tumhare paas jo hai tumhare hisaab se kam hai..par kisi or ki nazaro se dekho to tumhare pass bahut kuch hai....Suno...Jeeyo, khush raho muskurao..kya pata KAL HO NA HO....

After this dialogue when Naina goes into her room..and recollects the word said by Aman that did she really forgot smiling?? in the same way I also thought whole day that am I really taking life very seriously...then my heart said yes you are.....Life is simple.....Don't make it complicated....you have everything given by GOD be happy for what you are...

2nd part in movie......when Naina comes to Aman's house in a gorgeous white dress....sits beside him and says....tum aaye hamari zindagi me or itna kuch badal gaya....and Aman says maine sab tumhare liye kiya.......tum yahi sun na chahti ho na....and tells her Hey Dorky..and remove her spakes.......and from next scene onwards she wears lenses...I couldn't remove spakes  because lenses are not allowed at my home..hehehehe...This was the 2nd part of transformation in both of our life.....

When you slowly realize that life is simple, then you actually start feeling happy about yourself and you feel things are really beautiful around you...I felt same when I started thinking about it..........It took handsome time for me to change my self but now I am much more confident about my self ....more lively now.....and fun to be around as my friends says me...good to hear that right???


To be contd..............as movie progresses further.........................

"MY BROAD PURVIEW ON THE GREATER INTRICACIES OF EXISTENCE"

There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle. 

here I starts......... 

Sometimes, I sit alone and ponder, y am I so perplexed about the intricacies of my life... Is it my inner fear which is fetching me to the road of duskiness, or it's just a misconception about my life ?? 

When we were children , we were blissful, without a care in the world and unknown about the misgivings of life." Kitne Haseen the na woh din" ,woh dosto k saath masti karna, MAA k aanchal me sar rakh kar sona, teachers ko tang karna, ice-cream khaate hue chehra ganda karlena,aaj bhi woh din yaad aate hai to aankhen bhar aati hai or peeche mudke dekhte hai thou yehi sochte hai ki woh din to lotke nahi aa sakte bas rehgayi hai to woh simti hui yaadein." But as we grew older we have become more responsible towards our life and slowly we realised that life is not that easy at it looked in childhood. Now we have to tighten our belts rest of our life.. I remember my Parents use to tell me.... 

" Son, there will come many situations in your life where you will feel Demoralized, willing to quit the race, but that is the only time to understand the life and take another step towards the ultimate milestone, and it touched my heart." 

I decided from that day onwards that whatever the situation life throws at me I would face it with smile on my face. But friends I would like to ask you one thing... " Can you walk on thorns with smile on your face.....Think?????? But if you cross it with Smile on your face then there you win.. Same is the case with Life... 

Here is one Quote 

“When we're incomplete, we're always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we're still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on until we admit that while a partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we, each of us, are responsible for our own fulfillment. Nobody else can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program for eventual failure every relationship we enter.”
I would like to share with you the important things I learned from my life...... 

Always respect your Parents, because you are in this world because of them and if you don't then you don't deserve happiness in your life..... 

Never be jealous of anyone, do you know The Law of Sow and Reap, It says we get back from the life only what we put to it..even I remember Newton's 3rd law of motion, Every action has an equal and opposite reaction...... 

Always keep excelling in your Life , profound your thoughts to the extent that no one can defeat you........ 

Never compare yourself with anyone in this world, because you are the creator of your own destiny.. 

Try 2 save what you earn today, because a Penny saved today, is a Happiness tomorrow. 

Never be afraid of defeat, because the more your learn from your experiences the more valuable you become. 

The thing I hate most is politics in the mind of people who for their own benefit try to demean other person. I know that this would happen throughout life but if at that point of time if you believe in yourself and keep moving ahead with optimistic mindset you will surely taste the success. 

Never have Pessimistic Attitude in Life, always be Optimistic.... 

This is one Quote on attitude, I will remember whole my life which I want to share with u all..Here it goes.. 

“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes.”

It's really true that Life is 10% unpredictable and 90% of how we react.. I have always kept in my mind that "Our Attitude decides our Altitude". 

I would like to write more... but for the time being i could pen down only this much...but will keep writing..............................and do remember........

GIVE YOUR BEST SHOT AND LET GOD KNOW YOU DIDN'T MISS THE TARGET..